Convincing the child to obey orders is one of the most difficult assignment that every parent have to go through, as children simply can’t be brought up without authority, so herewith some main points to how to convince the child to obey orders and follow rules of conduct established by the parents:
Explain Your Rules:
Too many rules throughout the day may have generating resistance at the child, but when you give the child a rationale for cooperation, it is possible to cooperate more, rather than tell the child "Gather your toys", you say: "You must return the toys back to its’ place, or else it can be lost parts or broken” .
Too many rules throughout the day may have generating resistance at the child, but when you give the child a rationale for cooperation, it is possible to cooperate more, rather than tell the child "Gather your toys", you say: "You must return the toys back to its’ place, or else it can be lost parts or broken” .
Positive Behavior:
Push your child's positive behavior through short and positive sentences by specific request, instead of saying "Be good, don’t throw the books on the floor ", you say: "books to be put on the shelves."
Listen To Understand:
You must listen to your child for not obeying orders as he might have a logical reason
Avoid Threats And Bribery:
If you are using the threat or the bribe constantly to obtain obedience, your child will then totally ignore your orders until you threaten or bribe him.
Positive Support:
When your child obeys you, hug him and kiss him for his good behavior and express your feeling by saying “that is a wonderful job”, he will then do it again.
Push your child's positive behavior through short and positive sentences by specific request, instead of saying "Be good, don’t throw the books on the floor ", you say: "books to be put on the shelves."
confirming the child with your opinion on his behavior not on his personality, as you can say “ this is unacceptable behavior” rather than describing him with stupidity or laziness”.
Acknowledge Your Child's Wishes:
It is natural for your child to wish to have every game in the toy store when you go shopping, instead of scolding him, calling “greedy” you can tell him: "You choose one toy now, and the other for the next time”.
It is natural for your child to wish to have every game in the toy store when you go shopping, instead of scolding him, calling “greedy” you can tell him: "You choose one toy now, and the other for the next time”.
Listen To Understand:
You must listen to your child for not obeying orders as he might have a logical reason
or there was anything bothering him.
Avoid Threats And Bribery:
If you are using the threat or the bribe constantly to obtain obedience, your child will then totally ignore your orders until you threaten or bribe him.
Positive Support:
When your child obeys you, hug him and kiss him for his good behavior and express your feeling by saying “that is a wonderful job”, he will then do it again.
Eventually, making rules is so difficult for parents, but if you put clear and consistent rules and treat your child with respect and patience, you will definitely find that whenever he grows up the more cooperative he will be.
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